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PUT ON A NEW FACE
by Joe Bonura
In this article:
- A New Look
- Happy To Be Alive
- Look At The Monster
- Why Worry?
- The Third Degree
- Why Me?
- From Ten Thousand To Nine Thousand
- Mirror, Mirror On The Wall
- I Like It, I Like It
- One Of A Kind
- Reflections Of A Winner
A New Look
As I walked into the room, my wife was watching Good Morning
America. Diane Sawyer was interviewing Connie Culp, who had
the first face transplant in the United States at the Cleveland
Clinic. They compared pictures of her face before and after
the surgery, and my wife and I were amazed at the transformation.
Happy To Be Alive
The real transformation was not on the patient's outside; it was
on her inside. Connie was chosen by the Cleveland Clinic to have
the surgery because of her courage, humor, and love of life. All
three traits were obvious as I observed the interview. She
expressed how happy she is even though the face transplant
looks nothing like her former appearance. She is simply happy
to be alive.
Look At The Monster
Connie Culp recounted an incident when she was grocery shopping,
and a little girl yelled to her mom, "Look at the monster."
Connie asked permission to speak with the child, and showed the
child a picture of her driver's license so that she could see
what she looked like before the tragic event of losing her face.
The little girl smiled and said, "WOW!"
Why Worry?
Connie shared that it does not matter what you look like, you
will always worry about something. She pointed out that too
often we judge people by what we see on the outside, instead
of looking at what is on the inside. Her guiding principle
is to not focus on the negative when there is so much positive
that we can stress.
The Third Degree
A good friend of mine, W. Mitchell, had a similar experience.
Mitchell, as he likes to be called, had a motorcycle accident
and received third degree burns over three-quarters of his body.
He lost some of his fingers, and his face was severely burned.
In another accident years later, he was paralyzed from the waist
down.
Why Me?
Mitchell related that his turnaround came when he was in
rehabilitation and feeling sorry for himself. A nurse asked
him to give encouragement to a young man who was depressed
because he was injured in a parachuting accident and would
be confined to a wheelchair for the rest of his life. Mitchell's
initial reaction was to question why she would choose him to
encourage someone, while Mitchell himself obviously needed
encouragement.

From Ten Thousand To Nine Thousand
As Mitchell wheeled over to the young man, he had an epiphany,
not only for the young man, but for himself as well. He told
the young man that before their accidents they could probably
do over ten thousand things in life, but since their accidents,
they could only do nine thousand things. Mitchell asked him if
he was going to focus on the one thousand things that he could
not do, or if he was going to work on becoming the best that he
could be at doing the nine thousand things that he could still
do. And then he said, "It is not what happens to us in life
that
is important, it is what we do about it that counts." Today
W. Mitchell is one of the most respected and requested
motivational speakers in the U.S. and around the world.
Mirror, Mirror On The Wall
OK. So maybe you should take a look at yourself in the mirror.
What do you see? You are looking at a world of opportunity. You
are looking at the person responsible for your future, and a
success waiting to happen. What you see is up to you.
I Like It, I Like It
As my beautiful wife was looking in the mirror recently, I heard
her saying, "I don't like this about the way I look, and I
don't
like that about the way I look." I related to her the time
we
gave a gift to one of our grandchildren - the gift that she spent
a long time selecting, as well as wrapping with special paper and
ribbon. When we presented it to our grandchild, he ripped open
the packaging and remarked that he did not like the toy. We
remembered our disappointment at his reaction. I told my wife
to look again into the mirror and tell God that she did not
like the present that He gave her. She looked into the mirror
and said, "Thank You."
One Of A Kind
You are very special - one of a kind. Others know it, but do
you know it? It is time to have a heart-to-heart talk with the
person in the mirror. Consider Connie Culp and W. Mitchell and
how they chose to handle the lemons that life gave them. Besides
your negative mental attitude, what is holding you back? We all
have bad days, but it is a serious concern when those bad days
turn into weeks, months, and years.
Reflections Of A Winner
Return to your mirror of life and say a great big, "Thank
You."
© 2009 Joe Bonura & Associates, Inc.
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